So it has been a while since I’ve put up a meditation. I’m sorry, but nothing has been coming to me on this front and I feel nothing is better than something that is halfhearted and forced out. So I’m now going to title these monthly meditations, and hopefully will have something come to me at least once a month.
However, something has come to me at last.
There is an expression by the Dalai Lama:
“If there is no solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it. If there is a solution to the problem then don’t waste time worrying about it.”
This is an excellent thought and a variation in sentiment on the Serenity Prayer.
However, this or the serenity prayer isn’t always appropriate because sometimes, regrettably, we don’t always have the wisdom to know whether something can or cannot be done.
For instance a few years ago I was unsure if I should focus on my writing or use my time to find a new job as I was very unhappy in my job at the time. Or should I split my free time between the two? At the time I made the correct choice and focused on writing, although at the time I probably didn’t consciously realize why that was correct decision. But it was the correct decision because it focused on the long term problem and not the short term.
There have been other instances in my life that were like this, and when I reflect on them, when I focused on the long term problems and working to resolve those things tended to work out (as they did with my job…although admittedly not in the way I would have planned). And when I focused on the short term problems, problems just kept piling up.
And suddenly in the last week I have realized that it is always the long term issues that need to be focused on. Always. It’s not enough to look toward the future, you have to look to an actual long term goal.
It’s ironic that I didn’t see this sooner as this has been my complaint about politics for so long, that our elected officials only see the immediate problems and their immediate solutions to an immediate problem which in turn only causes long term issues. But this is true of personal lives and problems as well as in politics.
You need to focus on the long term issues, the long term problems and the long term goals first.
If you are directed toward the long term goals, the small things work themselves out either because you don’t focus on them as much or because God (or whatever name you want to use) tends to help you get over the small crap of the short term issues.
So the thing to focus on for this meditation is, as I’ve suggested before, make a list of what you really want in life. Now prioritize them—what you want the most at the top, the lesser things at the bottom. (Hint: Happiness should be at the top, and the next few should be exactly what you need to have Happiness) Now circle the top five or six. And now forget about the rest. Focus on those. Figure out what you need to do to get those, figure out what you need to learn, to find, to create to achieve those top three (four if you count Happiness, which your other things should all lead to). Forget about everything else. Every free moment you have should be focused on those things.
All the other small stuff will take care of itself, just keep focused on the long term goals.
The meditation for this month will be in training your mind to ignore all the smaller issues and stay focused on the major things. Have a little faith, that if you are directed toward your ultimate goals, everything else will sort itself out to help you reach those goals.