A few weeks ago I saw the following on twitter:
And I realized that this was the perfect quote for a meditation.
We often worry too much about others. I know society has made us think such a thought is anathema, but it isn’t. Rational interest is not some evil, it is the middle ground we should all seek. It is place between the two evils of hedonism (the denial of the rights, needs, and concern of others) and altruism (the denial of the rights, needs, and concern of self). Rather it is the middle ground of rational self interest that say you should “love your neighbor as you love yourself.”
So this week you should consider yourself first. Do what you want and don’t worry about if it annoys others. Now don’t go out of your way to piss people off (that would still be letting them dictate your life, although with a slight amount of more pettiness*), just act like you would if they weren’t there. Now if someone says that what you are doing is annoying them, then the polite thing is to reach a compromise…but your wants, your needs, your desires should be respected. Do what you want to do.
The goal of life is to reach Happiness and Enlightenment and no one should harm you in your pursuit of those goal. Those two goals should be your first concern (although you make sure you’re not harming anyone else on that trip).
Remember you’re a child of God, you have the right to do whatever you want as long as it doesn’t harm anyone else.
*Now if you do what you want, like say, write blogs about what you believe politically, and get enjoyment out of watching people who disagree with you get infuriated, bully for you. But it should first and foremost be because you enjoy the writing and expression of ideas…not just solely to piss people off…unless you to make a larger argument and win people to your side is to show how foolishly your opposition reacts, but again your first purpose is to win the argument not to piss them off as an end itself.