Continuing from yesterday let’s take a further look at how it’s not the Republicans who are waging a war on women…
The Wage Gap:
So let’s go to this one. I am older and feel that I have worked within business during the period where it was changing for acceptance of women. This allows me to have a personal perspective regarding this issue. I have seen the charts demonstrating that women make anywhere from 75-88% of the wages a man makes for the same job ( I believe the current talking point is 77cents of the dollar compared to men). I am not going to list sites here. These are always something like cleaning industry or food preparation, contracting jobs, etc. Since I work in the area of food service and cleaning as I am a consultant for hospitals in these areas and started out working in Restaurants as a waitress and then went into management and on with my career I think I can respond to these issues based on my own knowledge.
Most companies/corporations labor practices are run by human resource departments today and they all follow the labor laws. They also provide equality in setting wages with all rates stated by job class and not by sex and pay raises set by inflation not by the whim of a manager. This is factual, now some small businesses may do other things but I believe even they follow the laws and do not apply personal opinions. Any actual good business never cares about sex or race as they are only concerned with the best person for the job.
Now as to the stats always distributed. Let’s see, I saw one that said servers so I guess that means waiter/waitress. Now the study did not state whether it considered tips but I am assuming that it did as I know that most restaurant companies follow the above procedures so no one makes money based on sex. As far as tips go it has always been correct that men make more percentage wise on tips than women and as I have been a waitress in some top notch dinner houses I can tell you why that is. Women offend women – don’t deny it – it is true. Now the difference is that some women always play to men thinking that they will give them the tip without realizing exactly what control the women may have on that issue, also if the waitress is attractive then many women are jealous or insecure around them so they are not as comfortable or enjoying their meal so that will affect the tip, or some men are just stupid and flirt/tease with the waitress in front of wives and girlfriends thinking this is funny or good in some way. Suffice it to say men do not seem to care about male servers one way or the other and only care about service. Being as I am not a dummy this took me no time at all to figure out when I started waitressing. So I always played to the women and if the man wanted to flirt then I would stand by the women and not insult the man but empathize with the women for having to put up with this type of nonsense. My tips were fairly close to those of the male servers of equal quality where other women servers were much lower.
When I became a manager there were only 3 other female managers that I knew of in the whole company (nation wide and international also). But I was paid the same as any other new manager but was given a harder time. I am a strong believer in the concept that women often work harder/longer/better to be considered equal but I have never been paid any differently than a man.
When you group things like food preparation together that is improper as there are different categories within these positions. I will tell you that line cooks get paid more then prep cooks. I have encountered some great women line cooks but honestly it is mostly a job that men are in. It is backbreaking (on your feet for 8 straight hours (except breaks) and moving around in a smaller space, stressful and you are working in a hot environment – often uncomfortable (meaning not very good air circulation or air conditioning). Most women prefer the lower stress of prep work and the more comfortable work environment with others around to converse with. So taking an average in combining all of the various categories involved in food prep is improper. This also applies to cleaning work – there are several categories and one that receives a higher pay is working with heavy floor/carpet cleaning machinery. Most of this work is done at night to even very late at night and along with the need to be physically capable of handling the equipment – I think you can see why more men are in these positions than women. But I can assure you that if a woman wanted the job and was capable at the job then she would be paid exactly the same. I think that construction jobs would follow along the same lines so combining these types of things are silly and unproductive.
The professional areas such as doctor or lawyer for example demonstrate the other stat that is never discussed. I know some doctors and lawyers and the women I know are paid the same as men at the same level or quality. The issue that is never really discussed is that these studies are based on averages. Women more than men enter and leave their chosen field or job if they are having children or raising them. This obviously will affect wages based on averages. How often do you see a study based on beginning wages or after 10 years of experience for a particular field – no I have not seen them myself (and I looked). I believe that is because they would show that there is no real difference in wages. Averages can like percentages throw facts off – always question these kinds of things.
I believe Democrats use these averages/studies to make people feel bad and also feel that they need a protector. It’s very easy to be given a scapegoat to blame rather then looking to your own choices and responsibility in the whatever the problem is. This has been used time and again in history to control the masses. Republicans are also willing participants as I have stated they lack a backbone.
Romney wants to help people as he does so personally. As President he wants to open up as many opportunities as he can and that will help the vast majority of people in the long run. What people need to understand and accept as they are supposed to be adults not children and nothing happens right now with the economy but it takes time for both negative and positive results. And with all things in life negative builds faster and larger then positive so be patient. So when the legislature and President Romney start making changes it will not show up immediately but given a couple of years I believe we will be able to see a beginning turn around in the economy, debt and opportunity in America and in the positive vision growing again in our country and the world as a whole.
Again I am confused at this being a women’s issue – seems to affect all Americans. So here are the facts I found.
According to the National Center for Education Statistics women (all races) are the majority of the higher education degrees from Bachelor to Doctorates. So I do not think that women are being discriminated here (maybe men are not receiving the attention they need??). So let’s see what would the issues really be – children’s education, cost of education, availability for jobs after education …. I think that should be the main issues so let’s deal with them one at a time.
Education for children. First item that I have seen listed is pre school education. Statistics have proven that this is not financially feasible and provides little or no value (other then free baby-sitting). But I think back to that parenting issue there is proof that working with your child before (and after entering school) is effective. I am not going to quote stats for you here as there are too many conflicting issues for a definitive stat. But I had children and was also involved with them in school and elected to the local school board so I believe I have some basis for my opinions. First anyone who knows anything about children knows that they are all different and public schools are not real good at focusing on individual needs. I know in working in my children’s classes and in speaking with parents while on the school board that most problem students do not have a close relationship with their parents – meaning no real involvement in their lives. When parents expect schools to raise their children then you get exactly what is occurring. I know from having two children (both brilliant) with one having “so-called” special education needs that if you are not involved and assertive that schools/teachers will try and intimidate and guide you as they see fit with no real regard to the actual child or their needs. There will always be superior children that need no guidance and will achieve the top without pushing (I have one of those also) but the majority require parental guidance, caring and love.
Teachers – no matter how wonderful/caring they might be they are no replacement for parental involvement and encouragement in life. If a person is not willing to look at raising children as a full time job (regardless of whether you also have one of those) then I would suggest that you forgo that pleasure in life.
I have met so many parents that thought they were only there to love and give children things but not be responsible for their conduct or education – they left that up to the government. We get a large percentage of the population that expects everyone to value their feelings and make way for them due to that sort of parenting. I could write pages on my opinion of public schools but let’s just leave it with I think standards should be high, no tolerance (but let’s not leave common sense out of this statement), enforced rules of conduct and high expectation. Not all children will be superstars but they will or will have the best opportunity to reach their highest level with this attitude. And since I ventured into public schools from pre-school we will just skip that topic.
The cost of higher education is due to inflation (mostly caused by government). When government gives money then costs go up, when government takes over ability to get loans and makes it more prevalent then costs go up, when unions get involved costs go up, when employees are not held to productive standards then costs go up and when class requirements for degrees include politically correct topics and unnecessary social issues then costs go up as the time involved goes up. Suffice to say that I did not finish getting my degree but I have achieved as much or more then others with degrees. I know as much or more then those with degrees. I have in positions I have held had the privilege (yes that was sarcastic)/responsibility of teaching/training those that had just graduated from college. Although I admire those who have achieved a degree and insisted that my children receive degrees I must state that I do not think that for most business areas students are taught much of value that is applicable in real life business salutations (with the exception of accounting classes). I have often thought about going back and getting my degree but when I look at the classes I would be required to take and find out the syllabus I am sorry to say I cannot see what I would learn or be improved in other then achieving an additional certification/piece of paper. I think that is sad in so many ways. So with my bad attitude I avoid schools now and find it disgusting when I encounter people who feel that only those with degrees are of any value.
Democrats want to throw money at the situation and support unions. I can assure you that no matter how many times you hear “it is for the children” – teachers unions do not care about your children! Personal responsibility for students, families and schools are the only thing that will work. Let me say (since one of my wonderful sons is a teacher) that teachers should and could be paid more if held to accountability standards and tenure is removed. I have always been at a loss as to why teachers (when no other profession has this) achieve tenure.
Republicans seem to be wishy washy on this area also and always give in. The best schools are not the ones with the most money! Home schooling and Charter schools are achieving the best results – maybe because it involves parents who are actually concerned about their children more then the quality of schools but either way it should say something to all those out there. There are good teachers in public schools and I am sure bad teachers in charter schools but without actual parent involvement and concern in the education process it will never change. Keep in mind that although everyone in the country knows there is something wrong with the education system when asked parents usually exempt their personal school. I think that demonstrates a total unawarness of what is really occurring.
Romney has stated that he believes in No Child Left Behind. In reading his plans I think he means the standards is what he wants to follow through with. He is working with a lot of educators and I think he is on the right track so I am willing to believe that he can affect this area. Think about it – what if public schools had the same requirements as private schools – do you think more of our kids would be getting better educations??? In the real world we are aware of the fact that not all people can or will achieve a high level but everyone can reach their own personal highest level with the right attitude.
Violence against Women:
Now finally a subject that I really think is a women’s issue. I knew someone who was rapped, I knew someone who was beat up. I am aware of many other cases. I find it appalling that the law has not found some way to actually protect women from stalkers/ex’s when the woman has a restraining order but until something bad happens no one can help you.
You should not be surprised but I also found stats on men being beaten by women or men being beaten by male partners or women by women partners. But again surprising these stats are small compared to that of women from men.
I find this type of violence just like pedophilia so vicious and cruel that I believe these people should not be given second chances in life and should be put away for life for the protection of the world. I do not give them any leeway – no just “lost control of myself” or “could not control myself and if I take a anger management course life will be swell again”. I believe that once someone crosses these lines there is no going back – some things in life should not be three strikes and you’re out but immediate punishment. I really think if this type of attitude was adopted by society and the legal community you would see a real reduction in these types of crimes. As everybody uses the issue of rehabilitation needs into account and defense of both of these – I personally am not willing to offer to these types of people and I believe that the stats demonstrate that these two types of crimes are majority of repeat offenders. So stop trying to cover for them, protect them and stop trying to rehabilitate them – just protect society and put them away somewhere for the rest of their lives!
According to National Violence against Women 25% of women said they have raped or physically assaulted by a partner. That is an outrageous percentage. This does not include incidences outside of relationships – WOW!
Now that leads me to these so called religions that are currently politically correct and supposedly women’s groups want to protect. When a woman is told what to wear, how to act and can be punished then there is something wrong with any society that does not call that out and on a regular basis. There is no good to any group that sets any gender or race or any other discriminating issue apart and to be treated differently.
Female genital mutilation that is allowed around the world should be abolished and criminally punished (life sentences) for anyone involved in such a malicious act without any regard to the person the act is being performed on.
Ok I think that is enough of my anger for now.
I do not see these issues as party oriented but as legal and societal matters and if we can get around to getting over feeling sorry for perpetrators and no feelings for the victim. Do what is right!
I found out from looking at NOW’s website that women need a specific statement in the constitution for equal rights. I kind of thought that was in there but what do I know. I think I have pointed out that equality is what you earn in work and it appears to exist in all the other general areas.
Now like with all things in life – people are not perfect (including women). You will occasionally run into men that look down on women – don’t feel bad about it – I think they are very insecure and so are trying to make themselves bigger (in their own minds) by thinking that women are inferior. Just show them up – actually generally easy to do and that is so much better then trying to correct them.
Having said the above I also think that women need to be realistic – standards for jobs should not be lowered just because you are a woman. If a job has certain requirement then those are the requirements. I am kind of a hard ass about these kind of things. I think it is awful that people get old and cannot perform as well as when they were young but a business cannot function by continually making exceptions for people or groups. Since it is obvious I deal with people in business all the time and I often work on labor projects. I have to continually state that businesses must not consider a particular employee when determining the standards for a position/task but use the standard of the best they have ever seen for that position/task to be performed – that is the standard. Does not mean that everyone will meet that standard everyday/every minute but if you are not achieving close to it 75/80% of the time then you cannot fulfill the job requirements. Jobs are not made around employees/women but around the needs of the business. Life is not fair – get over it. Women generally (although I have encountered enough exceptions to not assume it is the rule) are not as able to perform physical requirements that men can perform (and yes there are exceptions to that so I also no that it is not a rule) so again standards must be realistic but if a few people have been able to perform them without issues then that should always be the goal.
If you assume you are a victim then you will be a victim but if you never look at yourself that way then the odds of your becoming one is less likely!
While I am on a rant let me also discuss something I have an issue with. Harassment in the workplace. The majority of people in the world are harmless and do not mean anything by anything they do or say. But if you are offended by something then you need to speak up immediately. But lets be real about this if you are the only person out of 100 people to be offended by something then I think you need to change employment or learn to suck it up.
If a man touches a woman inappropriately or makes an inappropriate statement to you then speak up to that man at the time. I can assure that 99.9% of them will back off and change their demeanor immediately. Let me give you an actual example – I have stated that when I was young I worked as a waitress. I had a manager that felt the need to touch his women employees inappropriately and make proposals to them. Most of the women felt intimidated but when he tried it with me I looked him in the eye and told him if he ever touched me again I would have his job and he would lose his wife and family when I was finished with him. Although he did not like me after that he did not bother me either. Now if he had been the one responsible for my being employed (as there were other managers and one higher then him) I still would have conducted myself in the same manner – I was looking for a job when I went there and knew I could get another somewhere else. Again never choose victim status! If all women conducted themselves in this manner then these businesses could not function with this type of individual and it would become apparent.
Anyway (and this might be a stretch) I think if presented rationally most of these issues should be agreeable to the majority of the people. Let’s all get back to personal responsibility and not looking for a constant protector or everlasting parents to turn to . For the record I am a woman but when it comes to issues I am an American!
And I am tired of hearing that Romney needs to present a plan for something – anything. Go to his web site – being a businessman he has very detailed plans on a large variety of subjects along with all the names of people who are his advisors in these areas. I don’t thing there has ever been a politician that has put out such detailed information on his ideas and beliefs. So do your research and I know that you will find as much to support in Romney then any recent candidate that we have had!